The line kept moving.
“I thought I was managing it: staying close to the line, but not crossing it. But the line moves.”Read the full reflection
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What it felt like. What changed.
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One person is a beginning.
“You don’t have to shout it to the world. Telling one person is a place to start.”Read the full reflection
The cost is time, too.
“It’s also about the time lost. You will never get that back.”Read the reflection on time
The slope underneath.
“Everyday life can have its ups and downs. But underneath, it can feel as though each new day is worse than the one before.”See the personal illustration
And another one after that.
“It’s never about the next bet, but a bet after that, and another one after that, and another one after that…”Read the reflection on the repeating loop
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Nicola Jaques
A conversation about discovering a loved one’s gambling, the impact on family life and seeking support for herself and her children.
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NICE guideline NG248 covers identifying, assessing and treating gambling-related harms, including support for families and other people affected.
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